That loathesome thing you do in order to feed your children / thing under the bed.

I get pushed aside constantly because I'm a woman. I've put in the same effort and time as everyone else, and I reach for every opportunity. I'm just as good as the others. But no one gives me a second thought. It makes me angry and sad. And I don't know what to do.

posted to work by Eileen, Barbarian of the Forgotten Lands (5 comments)

Rook, Farmer of the Poor,

Are you talking about family or work? Go for a promotion, move out, look for a new job. Those are a few ways to deal with it. Become as independent as possible.

Nikki, Handmaid of the Satisfied,

I'm talking about sports. I'm a female athlete in an intergender male-dominated combat sport. I work hard, pay my dues, help out in any way I can, train as much as I can on my own, and I'm in far better shape than most of the guys on my "team." However, when I come to practice, it's next to impossible for me to get any attention when it comes to training. Our "coach" focuses mostly on the guys (I'm the only woman there), and hardly any of the guys want to train with me, because they're afraid I'll get hurt. They also claim "chivalry," like "I was raised not to hit a girl." Problem there is that I have a more extensive background in training for this "sport" than all of them put together.

I did have a conversation with the "coach" a few days ago, and let him know that I want to be given the same training opportunities as the guys. I think he was genuinely surprised... it's like they don't even realize what they're doing to me. Anyway, we'll see how things go next practice since I had that talk.

Alice, Butcher of the craft table,

It's hard for guys to relate to women anymore because if they treat them like other guys, it's harassment, if not, it's discrimination. They're scared of you.

You need to find a buddy. Don't work on all of them... work on one of them. Convince him to play as hard as he can against you - you just need one person on that team to demonstrate that he can make contact, and maybe you get injured or maybe not, but you get up and keep right on going. His example will demonstrate to the others that you can take the heat, and gradually, your coach and teammates will fall in line.

Andy, Cleric of the Financial Services department,

Thank you, that's a fantastic idea.