I wish I could have done better. The truth of the matter is I have very little utility to my wife and my parents as well. I was treated in the USA and don't have the values or culture of my Asian white or parents. For me it's like being out in a round room and then being told to find the corners. I will always fail. It was foolishness on my part marrying this woman and thinking she would understand I'm American. I am nobody to them and always will be a fifth wheel.