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Man + Man + Woman = ???

I'm 21 and I have never been kissed, I'm a virgin, and have never had any sort of romantic relationship. Not many people know this about me, in fact only two people know the extent of the lack of...well...extent I have in the relationship department lol. And it's not like I don't want a relationship and all of that stuff that comes with it, because I do. I have a hard time opening up to people, putting myself out there, and not having extremely high expectations of someone (I'm a hopeless romantic unfortunately). So when people assume I've had the normal amount of relationships I don't deny it, and now I feel I'm constantly living a lie because around this age you usually talk about sex and such with friends. But I don't have enough courage to tell people otherwise because I don't want to be judged or labeled as virgin or prude. And now I fear once I do finally get into a relationship my significant other is just going to question why I have never dated anyone and been with anyone which has added to my list of fears of romantic relationships. But although I have had a great time being single and learning to dependent on myself and not someone else for my happiness, I finally want that relationship experience, I just don't know how to go about finding one, and putting myself out there, because I'm so scared of rejection and putting trust in someone that might break my heart. SIGH

posted to relationships by Andy, Alchemist of Space (3 comments)


George, Garçon of Space,

I didn't get kissed my first time until I was 40. The relationship didn't work out. I'm still a virgin too.

At 21, you still have time. At 42, you are out of time. In this world, if you don't find someone by the time you are out of Uni, you are alone for good.

So do something about it, because trust me, it won't just happen on its own - and you'll find out the hard way that though there may be many fish in the sea, they're all spoken for by the time you reach my age.

Finding a wingman might help. Good luck.

Ash, Matriarch of Generosity,

Just be confident in yourself. I wish more people were like you, and wish more people had due respect for those who remain a virgin longer. Instead of questioning like its a bad thing.

All I can think of is look for social activities that will put you around people with similar interests, and go from there.

I hope you find what you are looking for, and continue to realize that YOU make you happy, not the other person.

Kadnyce, Thief of Evil,

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