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Man + Man + Woman = ???

I had the weirdest dream about my ex (he dumped me)... we’ve been broken up for just over 6 months now. He’s been in Poland for the last 2.5 months for work. We were on and off communication throughout the summer but since he’s left we’ve talked pretty consistently, probably around 4 times a week. I haven’t spoken to him in 4 days tho...

So last night I had a dream I was dating this high school friend of mine and we were in The library at the university... I’ve been done uni for 4 years now and I haven’t thought about this friend since high school (don’t think that has any deeper meaning)

Anyways I was looking for my friend (who was my boyfriend in the dream) and I saw one of his friend who said he was in the back but warned me not to go there now and that I should dump his ass.... which in the dream pissed me off cause I knew it meant that my “boyfriend” was cheating on me

I went to the back and saw him and we started arguing cause I was upset that he was hanging out with this chick that I knew had feelings for him and I was mad that he didn’t considering “Making out” or “kissing” some else cheating. Anyways l, things started to Escalade in the dream and I ended up screaming something along the lines of “I can’t believe you’d do this to me when I told you that (ex’s name) cheated on me and I was really hurt from it!!!!!!!”

Then I woke up... super confused. My ex sort cheated on me just before we officially got together. We had been sleeping and dating for 6 months before he went off on a week long trip and ended up sleeping with the girl he was traveling it. Sort of justified it as not cheating cause we hadn’t actually talked about being exclusive with each other... or was stupid. Anyways, I thought I wanted to get back together with him... but I wonder if subconsciously I know I have never forgiven him for that....

I also hung out with a good friend of mine last night, had dinner watched a movie... it was a guy that my ex never really likes me hanging out with. I’m not sure if I felt guilty for hanging out with him....and maybe not having talked to each other for the last 4 days had something to do with it... anyways

I have no idea what this dream was about, what do you think i was trying to tell myself on a subconscious level?! Maybe I’m reading to much into this? I don’t know... but I feel pretty impacted from the dream. Little confused, not sure how I’m feelkng

posted to relationships by Colin, Administrator of Evil (1 comment)


Ari, Samurai of the Idealistic,

You don't deserve to be treated like that. Let him go, he's a loser. What you are looking for is a relationship with trust. What you are telling yourself is that you can't trust this guy.

Texting him and talking to him as often as you are means you still are acting like you are in a relationship even though you know that you are not. When he cheats again (and he will), he will have the guaranteed excuse that he didn't think you two were in a relationship.

How do you think that will make you feel?