Man + Man + Woman = ???

I have a good job, a nice car and my own place. I am Intelligent, thoughtful, caring, compassionate, honest, trustworthy and funny.

Despite having all of the qualities that women should be looking for I am finding it hard to find anyone that can have romantic feelings for me. I am successful at finding dates and getting all the way to home base but when it comes to really having a committed relationship I seem to be the guy that women just want to have fun with. I am not the guy they want to settle for.

I just spent about three months courting a woman who loved everything about me. We spent nights together, went on fun trips, cooked together, cuddled, kissed and everything in between. She even bragged to her co workers and friends about how great I am to her. About a week ago she bluntly told me that she knows in her heart that it could never be a long term thing with me even though she is very happy. She just can't feel romantic feelings towards me. She said that she really wanted it to happen but it wasn't and she does not want to waste either of our time.

So what gives? Does anyone here have any insight as to why it might be so difficult?

posted to relationships by Adrian, Paladin of Darkness (5 comments)

Rebecca, Pope of Justice,

home base, OK. Then the question is 5 minutes or 30 minutes ?

Stevie, Administrator of the Wicked,

Maybe you should try with guys, maybe they would be more in to you.

Rebecca, Pope of Justice,


Andy, Author of Time,

That doesn't sound like women not being into you.

Sounds like women you've been with not being into LTRs.

Change your selection practice.

Adrian, Paladin of Darkness,

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