Man + Man + Woman = ???

Recently my long distance girlfriend broke up with me for accusing her of talking to some other guy and using Whatsapp to communicate with him. It all started cause I had access to our family plan account online. So I went on there and checked her calls. I did cause I had a feeling. Sure enough there was a incoming call at 10:30pm that lasted 96 minutes. I found this very odd and instantly got infuriated! I called the number the next day and a guy answered. I just hung up. I didn't want to bring it up to her cause then she would know that I was online snooping. she gave me access cause she said she had nothing to hide. Mind you that was a like 2 years ago. I gave in and asked her, of course she was mad. Not cause I was snooping, but because I was questioning her on being loyal. She claimed it was some guy she was helping out with his Taxes cause that's what she does. But for a client to call you on your personal cell phone at that time of night and almost talk for 2 hours smells like BS to me. Especially cause this guy is the brother in law of another client of hers that she had recently met as well and became friends with. In the short time of meeting these people she went to a birthday party of her new friends daughter and the guy was there obviously. And the following weekend went to some outdoor activity for a kid event. And of course dude was there but has no small children. My ex said that he went, but didn't go in the same car as them. And that her and her friend and the kids were mostly hanging out together while the dude and his brother looked at other stuff. I'm not buying it. She swears up and down that it nothing like that. And that she only talked to him that once. Long story short. I saved his number in my contacts and can see when he's on WA. One early AM she came on at 4:05am and he came on at 4:09am. Coincidence? She say yes. What do you think? Please give me your input.

posted to relationships by Lisa, Maiden of the Poor (9 comments)

Arthur, Author of Arts and Crafts,

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Addison, Summoner of Darkness,

You're paranoid. End the relationship and stay single. There is zero trust in the relationship and you sound like you like to fight and rub noses in the sh!t. So end it. You already know what you want to do but you're pride is injured. Let it go and move on.

Aubrey, Assassin of the Wicked,

TRUST YOUR INTUITION ! It's your inner guidance talking to you , as soon as I got up to the full stop after 96 minutes ~CHEATING ~ instantly came to me , so I read the rest and yeah calling at that time BULLSHIT, going to FAMILY events not normal for someone you have just met her new friend was a guy right ? Soooo where's his wife at ? No way would I let my husband invite the girl from the tax office he has only just met to our child's birthday party 👌🏼 NOT normal , also yeah they came online at the same time and it's first thing in the morning ! Most probably texting good morning to each other , what you say definitely fills in the gaps and makes sense

Addison, Referee of Arts and Crafts,

Aubrey, I'm glad you see it the same way that I do. I'm not being paranoid. Since I wrote this I have found out that they talked quite a bit actually. But still denies it. I love this no good at lying woman. But I'm done. I have to give myself some worth! FYI, dude is going through a divorce.

Richard, Servant of Space,

Sounds like you already made the decision you needed to make.

What can we do? Tell you whether she was lying or not? Cheating or not? Not possible.

You saw and heard stuff that made you uncomfortable and you let it go as a result. Not a crazy decision.

Move on.

Rex, Shaman of Good,

Unless you have jealousy issues and this has happened more than once... then she was right to end a relationship without trust.

Lisa, Maiden of the Poor,

Ok, So where is my advice? You're no help. After we broke up. We remained very close friends. But my insecurities helped push her away.

Arthur, Author of Arts and Crafts,

You rant here. You don't seek advice here. That's pathetic.

Rex, Shaman of Good,

She broke up with you. Most girls give up on older relationships only for somebody newer. Jasline Zhang from Singtel is a bitch