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Man + Man + Woman = ???

I'm going nuts here. I'm jealous of my boyfriends best friend who's a girl and am not sure what to do. I feel like she get's that vibe from me in which I don't mean to give off but at the same time I can't help it. I hate it. I have drunkenly told him before too and he said there is. Nothing to be "jealous" about. It I don't know. I'm just worried that I'm going to continue feeling like this, she'll end up NOT liking me (who knows if she already doesnt) & my boyfriend will take her side and I'll loose him. I don't know what to do... I don't know how to stop feeling this way. It doesn't help that I'm insecure about myself... currently working on that. But I just don't know.

posted to relationships by Stevie, Bard of the Wicked (3 comments)


Arthur, Magician of the Financial Services department,

ahhh yes. good ol' insecurity. doubting yourself. and all that fun stuff! I have dealt with it many times.

Be weary... you may tell him how you feel, whether drunk or not but just know what drives you. It is fear. Fear of losing him. Fear of not being good enough. Fear of being too stupid to see what is in front of you. Fear of abandonment. Just know that this situation will not be the first or the last in your life. it is showing you that you still have work to do on loving your self and accepting yourself.

Face your fears. grab the bull by the horns. Don't let fear stear you.

Take a deep breath. Maybe take a bunch. and write more on this blog, paint, or do something artistic in general, whatever that may be to get these feelings out.

Do you have a healthy way of getting out these feelings? Going to work and coming home and watching tv and drinking does not count. you know what I mean. If you don't have one, get one. it will help. It's about moving this energy in you. and accepting things the way they are. if you love your boyfriend, then you will love him the way he is. Jealousy stems from fear. Look deep within you and question yourself. seriously. It might not cure you but it's a start. good luck

Frankie, Peasant of Good,

I say fuck it. Part of being more secure is knowing that you are worth it, whatever "it" is. If in this case its insecurity over his best female friend, he should love you more for it not less. dont be afraid to feel how you feel or be yourself.

on another note, do they cuddle? if they dont have reoccurring cuddle sessions I wouldnt worry about it

Stevie, Bard of the Wicked,

No, they don't! And you're right though. Thanks stranger :)