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  When i turned 18, and went to uni, i wanted some extra cash and decided to become an escort. It's legal over here, but escort is just a fancy word for prostitute. Anyway, i slept with about 30 men in total, one as old as 65. And most of them were probably married.  I will probably get a lot of abuse for saying this, but i really don't feel ashamed. At least i don't think so. Should I? I just keep thinking, if it wasn't with me, it would be someone else. Anyway I got 150 an hour, 1000 overnight, which is a lot of money when your studying and don't have a job. Also being an escort for a short period really gave me a very different life experience, and really changed me/ matured me as a person. It also helped me to understant men a lot more.  I'm only sorry for the wives that were hurt. But the men came to me, i never went after them. A lot of the time, i didn't even know their real names, and they never knew mine.  I'm a very liberal person, and also believe that if women are willing to provide to male needs for payment, then this in no way degrades them. It in no way degraded me, and i stopped working when i had enough money in the bank to get me through my studies comfortably and when i met my long term boyfriend. I just wish escorts didn't have such a bad name. Apart from those who are religious and believe that sex is a sanctity of marraige, i don't believe that people should see it as such a bad choice of career. Let him without sin cast the first stone.Even worthy biblical historical figures had concubines, its one of the oldest jobs in history. I wish people wouldn't judge me, even though very few people know in my life, just the fact that people out there hate the whores, the escorts, the hookers, the prostitutes. What right do they have to know the individual person? the ones who are educated, safe, clean, drug free and moral in all other aspects? does anyone else out there share these liberal views? If you want to grill me and tell me off for being a bad person, a husband stealer, imoral, then please go ahead. But i know in my heart that i am a loving and caring person, and that it was not my action that hurt others, it was the men who came to me. 
posted to relationships by Ari, Sous Chef of the Irredeemably Moist (37 comments)

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Harper, Student of the Wildlands,
This what you wrote I believe might be my exact thoughts and experiences.  Reading this has helped me alot.  I feel like recently I have been struggling with the fact that I used to escort and Ive been so confused as to why I dont feel much shame either..I mean Im not proud of it I guess but Ive always been curious about the type of lifestyle, and business.  It definetly is a different world and theres can be some danger going along with it but I think maybe thats the reason I was so concerned while doing it.  Anyways, while I was escorting I was going thru a stage I guess but it taught me alot of new, different things and perspectives that u could only learn from doing something that alot of people consider degrading and what not but really its an experience and even taught me to be alot more comfortable with my sexuality.  The only reason I stopped was because it got to be extremely difficult trying to keep secret from this guy I had gotten to know for quite some time once we started getting serious.  However, I dont think I could bring myself to letting him in on my secret? hmmm it would be great if I could get a reply back if u ever told your boyfriend..not necessary but interesting! 
Max, Ship Master of the Unimaginable Terror,

I used to be an escort for a couple of years. I met this amazing man last year and now I am married to him. For the obvious reasons, I could not tell him that I used to sleep with men for money. But he eventually found out soon after our marriage. Maybe, part of me wanted him to find out. I wanted a marriage where I did not have to feel bad about what I used to be. He told me that I had ruined his life, that I should have told him before our marriage. I could not afford to lose him because of what I used to do. I wanted a life where I can be happy. It's not that I was not happy before that. It was different. I wanted a man, a partner, a lover for life. Perhaps, I should have told him before our marriage. Sometimes the hurt and confusion I see in his eyes, it's too much for me. I have even considered leaving him for his happiness. He is struggling to forgive me and get past all these. I know he loves me still, he assured me of that. But he told me many times to leave him. I could not do that.I can't imagine a life without him now. I feel so insecure. Each time, he speaks to a woman, an attractive woman, I get worried. I am even having nightmares where I lose him to another woman. This marriage has been like a roller-coaster. For a day we are so perfect and the next my past comes in and we argue. I am getting used to him saying some things that really hurts. I do not know what the future holds for me, this marriage. I am just praying that this marriage works and maybe some day my husband will let go of all this that he is feeling and accept my love for him.

Frankie, Embalmer of Darkness,
I just came across this blog, and just wanted to give my insight on it, even with no expierience. People have and use sex for there own satisfaction, regardless if it is for money, being in a relationship, married, or just to have fun (one night stands, ect ..). If the individuals are consenting to it, nobody is getting hurt, there is an agreement, everything is perfectly normal with no problem, and everyone is happy with it, there shouldn't be an issue. When your having sex for your own satisfaction needs whatever it may be, why is it that it is looked down upon in society to do it for money? If you choose to do it for money, it is satisfying you in your needs, and it serving something for your life at that time, what is the issue? For example if you are horny ( and not an escort) you went to a bar met a guy, brought him home and slept with him, that right there is just an example of you doing something to please yourself. Regardless of what aspect it is. In regards to escorts ruining marriages, remember **PEOPLE LIE ALL THE TIME** It's inevitable. An escort is not a detective. When you choose to trust and believe someone, you cannot stop them from doing whatever they want to do. In the end they are there own person. If this world was lived in with no money, (minus everything that would come with it, where talking about the sex aspect) there are people would still sleep with different individuals for just there own personal satisfaction. REGARDLESS IF IT IS FOR LOVE OR NOT. Not everybodys path walks in a straight line, things do happen and people do change there are circumstances. Even if you choose to sleep with ONE MAN when you are married, and have a family. Things can possibly change, he might not be in love with you(vice versa) and you guys choose to go your seperate ways and find new people. You are sharing yourself with more then one individual. I don't condone NOT having respect for yourself or your body, but if everything is done in a healthy right safe manner, there shouldn't be an issue. There are ALOT of jobs out there that arn't healthy for you, that do put your life at risk. It's all the same IDEA but just a different aspect on things. Escorting is focusing on the sexual aspect of life, and every other job focuses on what it needs to focus on in life. All I AM SAYING IS NO ONE IS TO JUDGE. (This is how I view things in society's world , not in gods way) If your going into the religious part on things, if you have already had sex before your married, you have absaloutley NO RIGHT to judge an escort. Because all escorts and even pimps are fornicators. Also the couples who just "live together" according to the Bible, are committing the same sin that an escort commits. Singles who "make love" fall into the exact same category. So if you truly want to judge just READ THE BIBLE then think twice. Remember in gods eyes NO SIN IS GREATER THEN ANOTHER. God hates sin but ... He loves the sinner.
Frankie, Embalmer of Darkness,
**** Also adding to the top post ***** Being said THATS JUST MY PERSPECTIVE ON SOCIETYS / JOB BUSINESS ASPECT ON THINGS. AND SOME OF MY RELIGIOUS VIEWS ON THINGS ASWELL. If an escort chooses to make a buisness out of herself / himself that is THEIR CHOICE . They have there own reasons behind it. In life CHEATING, STEALING, AND LYING IN GENERAL , IN SELFISHNESS, OR TO GAIN SOMETHING OUT OF IT IS NEVER EVER THE RIGHT WAY.NOT CARING ABOUT HOW YOUR HURTING OTHER PEOPLE IS NEVER THE RIGHT WAY.
Max, Archaeologist of the Unimaginable Terror,
You know, if you want to say prostitutes and escorts are the same, that's on you. Just know you insult those of us who are legit escorts who don't spread our legs for cash. Next time use the proper term, you were a whore, nothing wrong with being a whore but don't try to clean it up or confuse people by calling yourself an escort which you clearly were not. Sincerely, A real Escort ravengypsy.net