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Would you be here if you had one?

The bully always wins. Always. There's no stopping him. If you fight back, the results from whatever authority figures are around you are worse than if you just let him pick on you. Teachers, parents, cops, or whoever will always put you at fault for the bullying and will always threaten and humiliate you for trying to stop it.

So don't fight back. NEVER fight back. Parents, stop giving your kids stupid advice to stand up to bullying. Instead, teach them how to cope. Friends, stop telling your friends to quit taking it. Be there for them instead.

Accept it; the bully always wins, and always will. Nothing will ever change that. It's better to do nothing and have the snot beaten out of you than to fight back, because the consequences of fighting back are *ALWAYS* worse. Learn to lie there and take it like a man. There are no alternatives.

posted to life by Frankie, Keeper of the Hungry (14 comments)


George, Scout of Justice,

Not when they are dead... just sayin'

Rook, Venture Capitalist of Musclebeasts,

You should form a posse and hurt this asshole so badly that he will never bully again,

Frankie, Keeper of the Hungry,

No, you're wrong, the bully always wins. All you're doing is making someone's life more miserable by pretending that they can have peace and then flaunting it in front of them. Stop spreading that crap.

Colin, Necromancer of the Irredeemably Moist,

Nope. I think money always wins, the prettier, more charismatic party always wins. But not fighting isn't the answer for everyone. So good for you if you've found your best answer or non-answer as it were - but no, the rest of us don't have to all capitulate to your way of dealing.

Frankie, Keeper of the Hungry,

And if you go and try to tell someone that, and they fight back and get hurt and their life ruined, what happens to you?

Oh yeah, nothing. Because you like to give advice without taking responsibility for it. You don't share the punishment, just the lie.

Colin, Necromancer of the Irredeemably Moist,

Funny how you haven't said the same words to the one talking about forming a posse or poking the bully's eyes back. Why is that?

Colin, Necromancer of the Irredeemably Moist,

I don't go "try" and tell someone that. I TELL, teach and train that on a regular basis. Not sure what kind of fighting back you're talking about that has ruined anyone's life - but so far, NONE of the people I have advised have had their lives ruined.

Many don't take my advice. Most DO fight back one way or another - even if it isn't in the way I advised. I say you should ALWAYS fight back at bullies. I now imagine that what I call fighting back probably wouldn't qualify in YOUR book. Because there is no reason for a potential victim's life to be "ruined" based on the advice that I have often given.

Rook, Venture Capitalist of Musclebeasts,

We have a bully in the White House. Should we stand up to him?

Rook, Venture Capitalist of Musclebeasts,

Poke the bully's eyes out with a coathanger. He'll leave you alone. Hell, he won't be able to find you.

Rook, Venture Capitalist of Musclebeasts,

If I get bullied again, I will immolate myself in front of the bully. He will never forget it and will need therapy. Then my life will have served a purpose.

George, Scout of Justice,

I have seen bullies stopped. I have witnessed when a victim decides enough is enough and have snapped on their bully with a violent explosion of unrelentless fury and beat the ever living shit out of them...leaving them curled in the fetal position, and were never bullied again by anyone.

Stand up for yourself, but be aware of who the witnesses might be...to limit getting yourself in too much trouble.

Colin, Necromancer of the Irredeemably Moist,

Nope. Sorry you had that negative experience, but that doesn't mean the rest of us have to stop fighting back. For many of us the cost of stopping is higher than the cost of fighting - even if we don't actually win.

Ash, Sheriff of the Wicked,

This is not good advice. That kind of attitude will only perpetuate bullying. I don't know what situations you have personally been in but in my experience, things always improved when the bully was confronted and corrected. Sometimes it is better to ignore bullies and not give them the satisfaction but is someone is relentlessly being targeted by a bully, something has to be done to stop it. The bully does NOT always win.

Rook, Venture Capitalist of Musclebeasts,

What are we going to do about the bully in the White House?