This blog is my first ever and inspired by a recent endeavour to get the woman I thought I wanted......
I have had the pleasure of experiencing multiple romantic relationships in life which inevitably ended. Most of the endings were due to my dissatisfaction and loss of interest in these women. I just didn't see or feel what I wanted to in them all....
Recently I tried a bit too hard to conjure up something with a cyber friend of years who I only had the pleasure of meeting a few months back, I loved the idea of her and what she stood for and I believed that with enough persistence, efforts and dedication, I, like any other can get what I truly desire.
I wanted to be perfect for, I wanted to be the nicest, most caring and understanding guy out there and my behaviour started to change because of it. In the end of the day all I was doing was trying to be someone I was not, I was trying to be too nice too often....
So here is the thing about being nice.......Nice is something that someone is only to keep social peace, but in reality and in relationships, if you with someone who is simply nice, it will no doubt be a short lived relationship. Nice is boring to be honest and at times plane down annoying, its what we need to be to random people we see in passing, the bank teller who did our deposit, the shop assistant at the service station...I think you get the picture. In a relationship that you want to be meaningful, being nice will not sustain it all.
You good guys out there that I wondering why you could never get or keep the girl you want, let me tell you why this is.....it may not apply to all of you because some men can be both real and nice at the same time and ladies, if you have that then you have a keeper. The majority of us however feel that nice is the way we should be and we act as though we are. We act nice because we are scared...we are scared to show her the people we really are and the numerous flaws we have, our tendency to get angry and upset, the natural aggressiveness that makes us men, the rawness that we possess. When you hide what you truly are from someone you should realize immediately that she isn't the one. As much as we would love to think that all the good things in life comes from hard work, this isn't the case in love. It needs to be easy, it needs to be real, there needs to be mutual attraction, mutual understanding. By no means am I suggesting that you will find a flawless love, but by being real, you will be understood they way you should and everything else will fall into place.
Being nice doesn't get people attracted to you romantically, they only learn to tolerate you and even that not for too long.
I myself am a good and caring person, but i'm also very raw, aggressive and primal in nature, stubborn as hell and intense in all I do. Yes, I wasn't happy with the many woman I had in my past, but I was myself with them and that somehow allowed me to keep them until things were ended on my own terms. I've recently also felt the need to apologize to women in my past just in case I hurt them on my journey to find the one but now that I realize I was real with them, I no longer feel the need.
Please fellow men, don't misunderstand me and mistreat your woman, just don't try to be simply "Nice", it just isn't enough, be real, be you and you will can have every thing you want.
So now I shall continue on my journey, but as I used to, I will do what I have always done in past that ensured I had active relationships but I will be patient in knowing that through the many encounters I felt were not meaningful, she will eventually cross my path, she will appreciate the real me and we shall live happily till the end of time, fighting, screaming, arguing, loving and living.
Never let the actions of an individual put you down, depress you and stop you from moving forward. We live in a world with more than 7 billion people, you're wasting time being sad over an individual when the numbers are in your favour. Use every experience as a lesson, take what is positive out of it, gain knowledge, apply it, move on, live, do whatever it takes to make you feel happy again and stay that way!!!!!