Posted on September 01, 2010 at 02:57 AM (UTC)
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Okay I'll start out by saying that I have no figure. I'm an A cup and 110 pounds. I've been dating my boyfriend for over four months now, we're both young, still in highschool. Sometimes all I want to do is please him, turn him on and feel sexy. But I can't hardly do that because I'm so not curvy. Today he asked me if he could watch lingerie football. I wasn't paying attention whenever he asked me so I just said "sure go for it" but now that I think about it, I don't want him to watch it at all. I appreciate that he asks me though. I don't want him to read playboy or even look at girls with big boobs. But of course, I sound controlling and I don't want to tell him and have him whipped. That's not my intentions. I get jealous of those girls with the fabulous bodies. It just seems like he wants what he doesn't have, a girl with a nice body that he can fondle and drool over. I I get jealous anytime he mentions curvy girls. He tells me I'm beautiful but I doubt it sometimes. I just really wish I had a better body. To make him happy(-er)
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2 responses to Does any one else feel the same way?
RE: Does any one else feel the same way?
Posted on September 01, 2010 at 05:41 AM (UTC) ( over 1 year ago )wrote the following:
You would be amazed to find out how many young women feel the same way you do. With the society that we live in, the bottom line is that sex sells! That's why it's all over the television and in magazines. Because it makes money.
But the important thing to realize is that the images that you see on TV and in magazines are not anywhere near reality! They are women that have been slathered with makeup, professionally styled, and even enhanced by photoshop and other software. If you saw these women in real life, you wouldn't even recognize them.
Natural beauty is what you have, and what attracted him to you in the first place.
That can come from personality, interests, or looks on a more superficial level. But the important part is that you are together because he likes YOU just the way your are!
Every young man has pent up lust and sexual frustration, it's part of growing up. He's seeking an outlet for that. But that doesn't mean that you should be his outlet for all those feelings, because thats a troubled path to insecurity and lack of self respect.
It sounds like he respects you, and if you continue to be confident and not be an outlet for his sexual fantasies and desires, he will figure out that your relationship is more important than simply fulfilling his sexual desires.
Show him love in different ways, complement him, trust him, and be confident in yourself and you two should have a healthy relationship that can bring real happiness to the both of you. Good luck!
RE: Does any one else feel the same way?
Posted on September 01, 2010 at 07:09 PM (UTC) ( over 1 year ago )wrote the following:
I will tell you a secret: It doesn't matter. If he loves you and you love him, physical appearance is secondary.
If you fell uncomfortable with it please, don't keep that feelings and try to talk with him. I'm sure he will understand.
Don't get jealous for something that don't matter.