Although I have my own blog I prefer the anonimity of the internet to discuss this sort of things.
The context
So, after being a year without a girlfriend (i'm 22), I finally met someone I felt that something that could turn into a relationship. That is nothing like a one-night-stand you like just to fuck once or twice.
But also I've had some experience with other girlfriends, so I have a list of "requirements" that will ensure we can work as a match, and actually none of these would apply to friends, but if I'm going to spend time with someone I prefer some affinity, and I think is not so hard:
1) Non-smokers
2) Open minded (not as in weird sex things, but as in knowing there are different cultures, languages and traditions across the world and therefore you can not say on is better than the other)
3) I'm an atheist, I have my reasons which i don't want to discuss in this post. So at least I want to be with someone that is agnosticl or eskeptical about what reliongs tell.
So you see, its not even based on the looks. I'm I really so complicated
The case
is that this girl is a Christian, and I think one of those instructed since childhood to sing and do all kind of weird "worship" seminars. It also would be easy to ask her if she ahs a reason to support her believes or it was just inherited, in that case I might try to show her other points of views, but the main problem maybe we don't speak the same language. Not so rare considering we are both studying abroad for a year while learning a new langeuage in which i'm a beginner and she intermediate and thats the only way of communication.
She likes me I like her, and its not like we are even going to get married or somthing, in a few month will return to our countries, but I really hate the idea of dating someon with ideas I don't agree and worst not being able to discuss them.
So now I am in the.. what to do next, I was so enthusiastic about her until I learned about her believes and the tight bond she was with her religious institute (yes I mean the f*** church)
any advices?



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2 responses to self-deception
RE: self-deception
Posted on March 13, 2010 at 04:04 PM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
Do you think its wise to date this girl?
Your moving countries in a few months.
She may have family she wont want to leave.
You could get attatched and it may cause problems.
I'd stay friends for the time being.
And on views to religion, I'm athiest also, However, i beleive people who are religious i.e catholics and christians are harmless as long as they stick to what they do. If they try to twist and bend me into beleiving somthing i dont want to, i don't like it. It's wrong, People are entitled to their opinions. Just Leave em to it.
Jess x
RE: self-deception
Posted on March 13, 2010 at 05:20 PM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
thanx for replying =)