Posted on March 03, 2010 at 04:12 PM (UTC)
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I'm underage and he is like a father figure for me.
A sexual relationship would be illegal and I don't even feel attracted to him in that way but I want to make him happy.
He isn't a pedo or pressures me. I love him very much, he takes care of me and does things for me that my emotionally and physically abusive parents never did.
I don't want to have sex with him, I don't want to destroy my illusion of a father-daughter relationship of us. It would be my first time and I don't know what I can do now.
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15 responses to I'm in an ( illegal) relationship with an older man
RE: I'm in an ( illegal) relationship with an older man
Posted on March 05, 2010 at 06:01 AM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
Illegal,
I would love to be your first sexual partner! I am very experienced, disease free, and have had much experience in helping inexperienced youmg ladies have a fun and greatly satisfying first time!
Let's have a great ime together fulfillng all of your fantasies!
Bobby
RE: I'm in an ( illegal) relationship with an older man
Posted on March 07, 2010 at 09:40 PM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
Illegal,
First off, ignore the crass offer of sex. Any experirnce you have with a creep who offers sex after reading your post would be an experience to be regretted. As to your issue, do not have sex with this man. If he is prepared to have sex with u , he is wrong for that and there is something not right with a man who would take advantage of a young girl from an abusive home. But here is the other way to think about it. Not having sex with him before you are of legal age protects him . If you care for him, don't ever let him touch you sexually, because if you are ever caught his life will be destroyed. The legal consequences and the social ones that come with being branded a pedophile
RE: I'm in an ( illegal) relationship with an older man
Posted on March 09, 2010 at 07:43 PM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
Thanks for your advice.
But the problem is that he will have to wait for three years until I'm 18. I'm afriad that he will think I was using him, which I sort of do. He does almost everything for me. I don't deserve his love by all means.
He has spent much time with just trying to make me feel good or helping me study and my grades really improved just because of him. I know it's pitiful but I need his affection.
In addition, I doubt that anybody would find out. I have never told my friends anything about him or my parents, though they've seen my bruises.
I hate the idea of him touching me or doing more to me. I makes me feel like a slut. But I think he won't be ready to wait this long, though he once promised he would never force me.
RE: I'm in an ( illegal) relationship with an older man
Posted on April 23, 2010 at 10:43 AM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
Hey young girl,
You r wrong, first plz try to know why he is helping, whats his motto behind it, if he is your father's age you cant marry him even after 3 years, as he'll too old to you, and never ever try to commit sin, yes sex before marriege is a big sin, dont be a sinner, taking help from anybody never meant as using them, always avoid taking help from other, you r in adolecent age now, so dont make any hazze decision at this age, you have to live your whole life, so what ever thought you have in your mind today may become a foolish thing to you tomorrow.
If this old man is expecting sex for his help, then it is sin for him too, so be careful dear, never get into troubles, once you surrender your body to someone thats all, you'll become a slut or whore in future, so plz be careful.
Try to avoid him, if his intention is illegal. If you have already lost yourself.......................................... only god can save.
RE: I'm in an ( illegal) relationship with an older man
Posted on April 26, 2010 at 03:56 PM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
There is no god.
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RE: I'm in an ( illegal) relationship with an older man
Posted on June 08, 2010 at 12:50 AM (UTC) ( over 1 year ago )wrote the following:
Here is a list of reasons why you shouldnt
- Do you really want to answer the question of, "when did you lose your virginity?" as 15 or 16?
- What if a child resulted of the situation, would you be okay with that?
- think of if you lose your virginity and you average one sexual partner a year.. how many will you have at 25? Now think if you had 2 sexual partners a year..
Facts are.. once you lose your virginity you will be that much quicker to take the step to sex with your following boyfriends or whatever..
The best thing to do is to wait till you are in a Mature relationship, and you aren't old enough for that.
That doesnt make any relationship you have now meaningless.. it just means that you are too young to date the guys old enough to also be in a mature relationship.
I know from experience being a 24 year old.. I lost my virginity at 16, and the guy never spoke to me after that. he was 18. at 17 I dated a 20 year old.. similar thing, just remember that guys will always want to have sex with you and many times will go out of there way to get it.. its how they treat you afterwards.. if you are 110% sure they will still see you the same way and treat you the same way.. then they arent worth it.
RE: I'm in an ( illegal) relationship with an older man
Posted on July 05, 2010 at 05:39 PM (UTC) ( over 1 year ago )wrote the following:
hi young lady,
i just wanna say that
In life when u hav choices,just toss a coin, not coz it settles the quest butwhile d coin is in the air u'll know wht ur heart is hoping for.
pankaj
RE: I'm in an ( illegal) relationship with an older man
Posted on December 28, 2010 at 11:16 PM (UTC) ( about 1 year ago )wrote the following:
be careful! He may have this purpose (to have sex with you) from the beginning that's why he does so many things for you. Try not to be so gullible. be cautious!!!
RE: I'm in an ( illegal) relationship with an older man
Posted on December 28, 2010 at 11:29 PM (UTC) ( about 1 year ago )wrote the following:
Be careful! He may have this purpose (to have sex with you) from the beginning that's why he does so many things for you. Moreover, learn that in your life you are the one who chooses and should not be chosen! I think you understand what I mean. Your very first time has to be your option and when you are in love with the person that you picked and naturally when you are ready you can go ahead. only then! Last but not least you referred that you are being abused by your parents, so I strongly recommend you to go to the police and aware them about your difficult, unacceptable situation! This is my view. I hope you are well. Good luck in your life!
RE: I'm in an ( illegal) relationship with an older man
Posted on January 25, 2011 at 07:50 AM (UTC) ( about 1 year ago )wrote the following:
you have to leave this bad realtionship .why do you want to make him happy .
you will be unhappy later .Don't let your emotion effect on you .
brother/
sari
RE: I'm in an ( illegal) relationship with an older man
Posted on January 25, 2011 at 07:51 AM (UTC) ( about 1 year ago )wrote the following:
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RE: I'm in an ( illegal) relationship with an older man
Posted on October 17, 2011 at 07:34 AM (UTC) ( 4 months ago )wrote the following:
No outsider is father. Your own parents are your welwishers whatever treatment they may give you, you are feeling so because your expection is too much. which you are not aware. Out siders they exploit you with sweet words, dont get attracte
RE: I'm in an ( illegal) relationship with an older man
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