Posted on February 28, 2010 at 04:07 PM (UTC)
( almost 2 years ago);
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iv got different groups of friends but have always considered my closest friends to be my group of college friends even though they are the only ones that dont know the real me u see after talking to my friends about gay and lesbian people i found although they would not admit it quite a few of then r homophobic so after secondry school i came out to all my friends but that group now i really fancy one of them its getting harder to protend if i tell them i could lose some of there friendshipes but if i dont im gona have to distance myself
i just need to talk about it its like a fire in my head
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RE: my friends might hate me
Posted on March 01, 2010 at 03:46 AM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
First of all, don't correlate Homophobia with some sort of bigotry, unless they blindly follow the "It's not right to be gay" mentality.
Some people simply don't like the lifestyle. It *is* biologically incorrect, but emotionally there is no right or wrong when it's two people who are attracted to one another.
You have to see things from their point of view, to determine if their Homophobia is because they find it immoral or it's simply not to their liking.
Building a relationship with someone of the same gender, who may or may not be gay or even curious, is very difficult. The best thing you can do is show patience and open up to them when the time is right. That fire in your head is anxiety, you want to just get to the point where everything is fine but you have to slow down...not obsess over it, and be cautious.