Posted on February 09, 2010 at 09:03 AM (UTC)
( almost 2 years ago);
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I got engaged at seventeen, got married when i turned eighteen..and i am now ninteen...my husband is 7 years older than me...I regret getting married to my husband because i dont think HE was ready for marriage..
I found out
-he has been watching porn secretly
-talks to other girls on "THOSE KINDS" of websites
-checks out other women constantly:'(
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8 responses to I regret getting married!
RE: I regret getting married!
Posted on February 09, 2010 at 11:53 AM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
aw bless ur heart
u need to sort him out, give him a choice either he sorts himself out of u will leave, that should kick him into gear.
RE: I regret getting married!
Posted on February 09, 2010 at 12:19 PM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
he is being stupid but u marryed him for a reason, u just need to make him relise that at any moment u could leave him.
tell him either treat me right or i am gone, he needs to see what he will be like without u
RE: I regret getting married!
Posted on February 09, 2010 at 09:10 PM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
The dating scene is awful these days. If I were you I would leave him and start reading a KJV bible and focus more on what you like to do. If its sewing or cooking get into something like that. Forget men. I've dated women and they turned on me. Marriage and sex isn't for everyone. There is too many diseases out there to worry about having a man. Please don't consider turning to the same sex either.
RE: I regret getting married!
Posted on February 10, 2010 at 06:37 PM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
Sounds to me like your not ready for marriage. Its about compromise and understanding and accepting your mate for who they are...
There is nothing wrong with your husband looking at other women, so long as he doesnt touch.
As far as him looking at porn....sooo? All men like porn, if they say they dont they are lying. The fact that he does it secretly means that he loves you and is worried that you will be upset. He prolly wont keep it a secret if you tell him its ok in moderation.
The talking to girls on websites kinda sucks but its vague and I dont know what you are talking about...I think you mean flirting in chat rooms....I would nip that in the but it could be emotional cheating...
Other than that though, seems like pretty small peanuts to me. Id wait to regret your marriage for when you have some real problems.
RE: I regret getting married!
Posted on February 15, 2010 at 06:18 AM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
All men do that. Deal with it.
RE: I regret getting married!
Posted on February 22, 2010 at 09:18 PM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
i get what you mean and forget all this people who say all men do that..you didnt want to marry "all men" you wanted some one special.
RE: I regret getting married!
Posted on February 27, 2010 at 09:30 AM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
just because society is so crupt we do not need to make an excuse for all the wrong that is happening around us. to make an excuse means you are too lazy and to weak to over come i
PLAIN AND SIMPLE, WHAT YOUR HUSBAND IS DOING IS WRONG! I AM A GUY WHO IS MARRIED AND I DO NOT APPERCIATE PEOPLE CLUMPING US TOGETHER LIKE WE ALL LIKE LOTS OF NAKED GIRLS RUNNING AROUND. I LOVE MY WIFE, AND I WILL NEVER SPIT IN HER FACE LIKE THAT. SHE IS THE ONLY ONE I SEE AND WANT TO SEE. WE MET AT A YOUNG AGE AND NO MATTER HOW LONG ITS BEEN, IN MY EYES SHE REMAINS THAT BEAUTIFUL, YOUNG, KIND HEARTED PRINCESS I MET 20 YEARS AGO.
if a man tells you that "all men to it and its natural" he is a complete idot. there are many more men out there who agrees with me and are looking for a princess just like how i found mine. do not give up your faith in men or love for that matter!
RE: I regret getting married!
Posted on March 12, 2010 at 05:26 AM (UTC) ( almost 2 years ago )wrote the following:
Have a dialogue
Its all about winning him over. Making him see your point of view. In that process you will also have an opportunity to obtain the clarification. Arrive to a mutual understanding about the likes and dislikes. Be gentle and professional in reasoning this out.
Ask him what he would do if he were to be in your situation and observe silence and see what he has to say. Its about making him realise how you feel.
Let him know, how much you love him and whats your expectation. See if he is willing to meet that expectation. Ask him if he finds anything lacking in your relationship. Tell him that your feminity feels challenged, and you fell as though you are not the woman that he wants. Ask him, if he would feel that same, if he were to be in the same situation.
In conclusion.. make sure that.. you kiss each other. Make that as a criteria for yourself in ending this conversation.
You will then ensure that it will end well.
You couples will be just fine. GOD BLESS YOU.
Rgds
Bala