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   Posted on July 09, 2009 at 05:44 AM (UTC) ( over 2 years ago )
   

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   We don't have any children, and the finance part shouldn't be too much of a problem for me. 

   somehow, when this happens to most people, they get angry.  I, somehow, don't seem to be angry, but very very disappointed at my wife. 

   somehow deep inside, it maybe hard for me to part, I don't know why.  I asked again to my wife why she had cheated on me, she said she didn't know the consequences until now.  She didn't know how much it hurted me, and how much i had actually trusted her previously.  Now, she says she know how much trust she had lost from me.   She seems to be very sencere.  Again, i have spoke with my parents, and they seems to be agree with most of you where they encourage me to have a divorce asap, and then start my life again; whether the new girl can be with me or now...

   I guess it's very difficult to throw again 5 years of feels, time, etc...I'm still struggling...I usually go with my instinct, but right now, it seems to be no answer for me...any other inputs would be grealy appreciated, as i gather all my thoughts

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   Posted on July 09, 2009 at 08:23 AM (UTC) ( over 2 years ago )
   

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   There is really nothing else other people can say. Everyone handles things differently.

   The correct decision lies within your heart.

   You are lucky that you do not feel anger. I feel anger almost everyday. it is very hard to move on. I am pretty much a lost cause.

    

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     Posted on July 09, 2009 at 05:44 PM (UTC) ( over 2 years ago )
     

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     Thank you again for sharing your thoughts.  I think one of the main reasons that I can't let go is because I feel sad/pity for my wife, if i do leave her...

      not sure if this is the right feeling.  therefore, my friend/parent had told me not to think with my heart, but with my head...

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       Posted on July 09, 2009 at 05:46 PM (UTC) ( over 2 years ago )
       

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       by the way, i now just told the new girl about my wife's situation.  the new girl seems to be very thoughtful, and have given me some good food for thoughts...but i have not yet expressed my feelings for her...not sure if this is a good time now...

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         Posted on July 23, 2009 at 02:24 AM (UTC) ( over 2 years ago )
         

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         i have made my decision to have a divorce with my wife.

         anyone has any ideas on how and when i should tell the new girl about my true feelings for her?  I told her that I have decided to have a divorce with my wife.  We actually went to a marriage counselling, and at the evaluation stage, the counsellor had alrdy said that it seems i have already made up my mind in having a divorce...thus afterward the counselling (we went together, but was called in separately to meet with the counsellor), i told my wife that I would still like to have a divorce.

         now the new girl knows about my decision...how and when i should tell the new girl about my feelings about her?  any feedback would be greatly appreciated...i feel i don't want to wait for too long, or else i may lose the new girl to someone else...

          

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